Is Anybody Out There?

imageI really can’t believe it has been 14 months since I wrote anything here. It’s funny. When I first started blogging and were new it was really pretty all consuming, that feeling of wanting to put all that I was thinking and feeling down in a post. I’m a very verbal person but this is not something you can talk about with anyone you know. (At least for me.) And so I wrote. I wrote here and I wrote on my private blog just for Alex.

But after awhile it began to feel like I was saying all the same things, and feeling all the same things. We are up. We are down. We are good. We are struggling. The kids are home so we have pretty much put the dynamic away for a bit. The kids are gone so I think things will improve. I really want this. Does he really want this? We talked. We are trying again. On. And on. And on. Broken record.

Who wants to read that? Who wants to see the same thing over and over? But probably more significantly for me, why would I want to write that. It became a graphic representation of our stagnation. And so I quit writing.

But lately I have been feeling like even if that is the case I should write again. I need to process things now just as much as before and this is still an excellent way to do that. So I am going to do that.

I am going to write. I am going to make myself write. I would love to tell you that everything is going strong but as always we are a work in progress and I continue to be in a position of pushing or pulling him along with me. But maybe this introspection will help that process along.

Anyway, hello again. Is there anybody out there? I hope there is someone still there but even if you have all gone away I’m still here and beginning again.

My next post will be a full update and some thoughts on where I am but I wanted to start with hello.

Happy New Year!


Happy New Year one and all! Later tonight we will gather with friends for a lovely meal and fireworks to ring in the New Year. I hope you and yours have a fun and safe new year.

Wishing you Blessings and Good Fortune in 2015!

Love Our Lurkers!




Hello all!

I haven’t posted in several months and there is much to report. I will put up a new post to catch up this week but in the meantime I didn’t feel like I should let LOL 9 Day go by without jumping in. Our Dd and D/s has been changing and evolving lately and we are still sorting things out but we are moving in a good direction.

If  you are still reading here after my hiatus I am so grateful. So please come out of the shadows if you are here. I would love to hear from you.

Thanks to Hermione for hosting LOL 9.  It was just the thing I needed to get back to blogging!



Happy Easter








Alex and I wish you all a lovely and blessed Easter.



It’s Been Two Years


Two years ago I signed up for a WordPress account and wrote a few posts. Alex read them and approved and I very nervously hit publish and A Uniquely Different Life was born. It felt so unique and different to how we were before we started our Dd relationship that the name just sort of seemed an obvious choice at the time.

I also had to pick a name. I think that was fate because I truly just picked  Zoe because I liked it. Then I did some research  on the name and it turns out that in Greek Zoe means Life and in Japanese Zoe means Uniquley Different. What!? Cool. A name for me and the blog were born.

I really cannot thank all you wonderful readers enough for being here and taking time out of your lives to read here in my little corner of blogland.  I have made some real friends and cherish you all more than I can say. I still get a thrill when I see I have a comment. Thanks to you all!

I haven’t always felt like I had as much to say  in the past few months but I think that is normal. Many of the bloggers who started at the same time or before me have gone away or are posting less as well. I am making a concerted effort to post on a more regular basis. I do this for me and for my need to examine the thoughts swimming around in my head but also for the connection to all of you. And it really does help my marriage. Alex is my first and most important reader.

So thanks again to you all. On to year number three!

Bear Hugs For Emily

For Emily 3

As many of you know Jim and Christina’s little girl Emily has been very sick. We are continuing to send love and prayers to them for her full and complete recovery.
Every night at 9pm you can join in sending prayers for Emily. Hopefully the thoughts and positive energy will help in some small way.
Christina and Rogue both have been leaving updates on their blogs:
Thanks to Patty Devlin (click here to grab a pic), we can all send hugs to Jim & Christina. If you want you can make a post of your own to show Jim and Christina just how much we all care and send well wishes for Emily and the whole family.

It’s Mother’s Day!

Wishing you…






and Love on this Mother’s Day!

About Alex

This has been floating around so I thought I would join in and give you all a little look at Alex. (He’s pretty great so…)
1. He’s sitting in front of the T.V., what’s on? SportsCenter or NCIS or Castle

2. You’re out to eat: what kind of dressing does he get on his salad? Blue Cheese

3. The most striking thing about his physical appearance? His hairline.

4. You go out to eat  and have a drink: what does he order? Any kind of fish and a Seven and Seven.

5. Where did he go to high school? A public high school in his home town.

6. What size shoe does he wear? A 10.5

7. If he were to collect anything what would it be? Coins

8. What is his favourite type of sandwich? BLT&E (Bacon, Lettuce, Tomato and Egg)

9. What would he eat every day if he could? Watermelon

10. What is his favourite cereal? Oatmeal or Frosted Flakes

11. What would he never wear? A Speedo

12. What is his favourite sports team? The Cleveland Indians and The Leicester Tigers.
13. Who did he vote for? Not who I voted for.

14. Who is his best friend? ME

15. What is something you do that he wishes you wouldn’t? Leave the radio on in his car so it is on when he starts it. (He hates that.)

16. What is his heritage? All four grandparents were born in Spain.

17. You bake him a cake for his birthday; what kind? German Chocolate

18. Did he play sports in High school? Oh Yeah! Baseball, Football, Basketball and Track.

19.What could he spend hours doing? Yard work

20.What is one unique talent he has? According to him, “Picking a great wife.” Very sweet.


Sick and Tired

of being sick and tired…

Since Christmas Eve I have had strep twice in 14 days which meant being sick for all of Christmas and New Year’s. I had a root canal which put me out of commission for about 8 days in all. Then about 2 weeks ago I got probably the worst sinus infection and case of bronchitis of my life and I am still recovering. I have been on 5 different antibiotics and a steroid pack since Christmas which meant that on top of everything else last week I also had a case thrush. All I know is that it is a good thing I am not working because I would have used all my sick days and then some and it’s only the beginning of March.


Last week just sucked. I felt so bad. I haven’t coughed like that in forever and the thrush means that nothing tastes right. I have been through boxes of Puffs. I am getting better which is good but I just hope that this is finally done. Spring can’t get here fast enough. It worries me to be on so many antibiotics and that I my get resistant to them. That was basically what happened with the strep because I finished one case and then almost immediately had a full case again. Not good. They think the steroids weakened my immune system which allowed the bronchitis to take hold. I just hope this cylce is over.

None of this is really serious which makes me appreciate my health all the more. I feel for anyone dealing with a serious illness. Just having a string of consecutive illnesses has been hard enough to take.

That has pretty much kept me from even reading most people’s posts lately let alone commenting. Lurking was just easier if I even did that.

And in happier news…


In the middle of all that my blog turned 1 and this is my 100th post!

Thank you to everyone who comes by and reads. I don’t have a lot of readers but I do cherish you all and so appreciate any and all comments you leave. You have all helped Alex and I on this crazy but worthwhile journey and I can’t overstate my gratitude. Having an outlet for my sometimes confusing and jumbled thoughts has allowed me to understand myself better and I know it has helped Alex to understand me better too.

I couldn’t decide if I should post about all the stupid (but essentially trivial) illnesses that I have been dealing with but ultimately you are my friends and friends share things. This blog is about me. Domestic discipline is only one part of my life and often ends up taking a back seat to other things like illness and kids. I’m glad I can share it all. While this community is primarily about Dd it is also a community that shares happiness and sorrow and I am so happy to be a part of it.

Happy Valentine’s Day

Here’s hoping that you and yours get carried away this lovely Valentine’s Day.

Love Balloons

Love to all – Alex and Zoe