I live in a really nice neighborhood and we have an amazing tradition. Once a month for over ten years the ladies get together for dinner at someone’s house or at a restaurant. I was the one to host the gathering for October. The meal was lovely and the weather perfect. I love to cook and bake and have attained quite a reputation in the neighborhood for both. I have also worked in a bakery in the past and sometimes make cakes and sell them to my friends and acquaintances. It is a very informal and very small operation.
That evening we were talking about the food and the desserts and one of my friends asked me about selling cakes. I explained that I do not have a commercial kitchen and that I would need to modify my home kitchen if I wanted to turn it into a real business.
“No”, she said. “You can do it at home.”
“No I can’t,” I explained. “Well I could but there would have to be changes in lighting, countertops etc. if I were to really do this in my home on a scale any larger than I do now. There are regulations on food preparation businesses.”
“Oh you’re a rule follower.”
I just laughed and said yes but inside I wanted to say – You have no idea! I mean I am in a Dd marriage!
I have to say her comment brought me up a little short and has made me think.
I am a rule follower.
I like their structure. I like their security. I like their stability.
Maybe that is one of the reasons that ttwd works so well for me. I like rules. Having a list of rules that Alex finds important gives me the structure I need and want. It gives me security and stability. It makes me feel safe. They establish a framework for how our household runs.
Beyond our home we have rules and laws, regulations and standards of behavior that help us live in a civilized society. Rules help us to do that.
It greatly bothers me when I see these standards eroding. When I see others who can’t or won’t follow the rules and it worries me that so many just don’t seem to care or notice these days.
I picked up my daughter from an activity last evening. She is driving now and in the time it took for me to switch from the divers seat to the passenger seat so she could drive I heard a group of young guys loudly throw the f bomb three times as they walked past. When did that become ok? When did it become ok to subject everyone around you to your crass language? When did we loose our sense of decorum?
Its not ok with me. I think we loose something when we loose manners and acceptable ways to behave in public. When guys walk around with their pants around their knees and girls walk around in public in their pajamas we all loose something. When we don’t have standards we loose something. We need them.
So yes. In answer to her question…
In both my personal and public life I am a rule follower and proud of it.